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There are many misnomers that surround infidelity in committed relationships. One myth is that one party or the other must have done something to have caused it. Another myth is that after an affair comes to light, any possible future happiness in the rel
How Do I Heal After Infidelity?

How Do I Heal After Infidelity?

There are many misnomers that surround infidelity in committed relationships. One myth is that one party or the other must have done something to have caused it. Another myth is that after an affair comes to light, any possible future happiness in the rel...

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Have you found yourself falling for a jerk in the past and want things to change? To help you avoid falling for a jerk or becoming a jerk yourself, let’s identify some of the key characteristics of being a jerk.
What are the Qualities of a 'Jerk'?

What are the Qualities of a 'Jerk'?

Have you found yourself falling for a jerk in the past and want things to change? To help you avoid falling for a jerk or becoming a jerk yourself, let’s identify some of the key characteristics of being a jerk.

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Healthy, happy, lasting relationships are built on trust, loyalty, and honesty. “Taking your partner for granted” in the sense that you are comfortable together and not constantly worrying about whether you’ll be able to hold on to that person, is a good
Are you Comfortable or Complacent with your Partner?

Are you Comfortable or Complacent with your Partner?

Healthy, happy, lasting relationships are built on trust, loyalty, and honesty. “Taking your partner for granted” in the sense that you are comfortable together and not constantly worrying about whether you’ll be able to hold on to that person, is a good

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How do we celebrate important milestones, events and stay connected to our loved ones while following medical experts' advice? Below are three tips on how to stay connected during the pandemic and celebrate with family and friend’s long distance.
How to Connect with Family During COVID Holidays

How to Connect with Family During COVID Holidays

How do we celebrate important milestones, events and stay connected to our loved ones while following medical experts' advice? Below are three tips on how to stay connected during the pandemic and celebrate with family and friend’s long distance.

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Stepfamilies are complex and diverse and becoming a thriving stepfamily is a process that takes time and patience. A strong foundation of trust and communication buffers the challenges that arise from stepfamily life, and a loving and well-adjusted stepfa
Building Stepfamily Relationships

Building Stepfamily Relationships

Stepfamilies are complex and diverse and becoming a thriving stepfamily is a process that takes time and patience. A strong foundation of trust and communication buffers the challenges that arise from stepfamily life, and a loving and well-adjusted stepfa...

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Taking time for regular date nights with your sweetheart is not only fun and shows that you care enough to take time for each other, but it can also help you have opportunities to communicate, rekindle the spark, and relieve stress (Wilcox & Dew, 2012).
How to Stay Connected with "At- Home" Dates

How to Stay Connected with "At- Home" Dates

Taking time for regular date nights with your sweetheart is not only fun and shows that you care enough to take time for each other, but it can also help you have opportunities to communicate, rekindle the spark, and relieve stress (Wilcox & Dew, 2012).

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Coparenting is important for children’s well-being but can be challenging. By understanding supportive vs. non-supportive coparenting strategies, as well as tips for effectively resolving conflicts, parents can develop a health coparenting relationship.
Positive Coparenting Strategies

Positive Coparenting Strategies

Coparenting is important for children’s well-being but can be challenging. By understanding supportive vs. non-supportive coparenting strategies, as well as tips for effectively resolving conflicts, parents can develop a health coparenting relationship.

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We typically think of personal achievement as something, well, personal. I have my own dreams, I set my own goals, I set personal deadlines, and I accomplish what I set out to do. But team-based approaches to goal setting are turning out to be wildly suc
Can I share a New Year's resolution with my spouse?

Can I share a New Year's resolution with my spouse?

We typically think of personal achievement as something, well, personal. I have my own dreams, I set my own goals, I set personal deadlines, and I accomplish what I set out to do. But team-based approaches to goal setting are turning out to be wildly suc

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The year 2020 has taught us the importance of resilience. And that is true for relationships as much as anything in life. If you want a resilient relationship for 2021 and beyond, there are a couple ideas you can incorporate.
Can relationships recover from the stress of 2020?

Can relationships recover from the stress of 2020?

The year 2020 has taught us the importance of resilience. And that is true for relationships as much as anything in life. If you want a resilient relationship for 2021 and beyond, there are a couple ideas you can incorporate.

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One in three people live in blended families. Though I am not a fan of labeling blended families, the term can highlight the unique challenge of finding tolerable ways to blend the lives, experiences, expectations, and dreams of all involved.
Why is blending so difficult for blended families?

Why is blending so difficult for blended families?

One in three people live in blended families. Though I am not a fan of labeling blended families, the term can highlight the unique challenge of finding tolerable ways to blend the lives, experiences, expectations, and dreams of all involved.

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A close relationship between grandparents and grandchildren is mutually beneficial when it comes to the health and well-being of both. Grandparents provide acceptance, patience, love, stability, wisdom, fun and support to their grandchildren. This, in tu
Cultivating a Close Relationship with Grandparents

Cultivating a Close Relationship with Grandparents

A close relationship between grandparents and grandchildren is mutually beneficial when it comes to the health and well-being of both. Grandparents provide acceptance, patience, love, stability, wisdom, fun and support to their grandchildren. This, in tu

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As a parent, watching your child become an adult can be extremely rewarding. After all, you get to see how years of hard work helped to produce this seemingly independent person you see before you. Yet for some parents, their child’s transition from a tee
Parenting Your Young Adult Child

Parenting Your Young Adult Child

As a parent, watching your child become an adult can be extremely rewarding. After all, you get to see how years of hard work helped to produce this seemingly independent person you see before you. Yet for some parents, their child’s transition from a tee...

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Expectations of the holiday season often ignite an atmosphere of anticipation in regards to love, joy and family. Though these expectations may shine brightly, the demands of work, family, and friends may also usher in a season of stress for couples makin
How to Strengthen your Relationship Amid Holiday Stress

How to Strengthen your Relationship Amid Holiday Stress

Expectations of the holiday season often ignite an atmosphere of anticipation in regards to love, joy and family. Though these expectations may shine brightly, the demands of work, family, and friends may also usher in a season of stress for couples makin...

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One of the most wonderful and difficult things to find when dating, is to find someone that you like and who likes you back. From that mutual feeling you can build a healthy relationship that has the potential to grow into a lasting and loving relationshi
How to get in a relationship

How to get in a relationship

One of the most wonderful and difficult things to find when dating, is to find someone that you like and who likes you back. From that mutual feeling you can build a healthy relationship that has the potential to grow into a lasting and loving relationshi...

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Recent challenges have encouraged many of us to reflect on what we are most grateful for in life. Cultivating gratitude can lead to tremendous benefits, and not just during times of crisis.
Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

Recent challenges have encouraged many of us to reflect on what we are most grateful for in life. Cultivating gratitude can lead to tremendous benefits, and not just during times of crisis.

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Does it ever feel like your child has pushed your buttons to the point that you are about to lose it? This is a common experience for many parents. When we experience anger, our bodies release adrenaline and our heart rate and blood pressure increase.
Don't Let Anger Sabotage Your Parenting

Don't Let Anger Sabotage Your Parenting

Does it ever feel like your child has pushed your buttons to the point that you are about to lose it? This is a common experience for many parents. When we experience anger, our bodies release adrenaline and our heart rate and blood pressure increase.

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We need to prioritize time for self-care. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman tells us, “By engaging in proactive self-care, we can create the conditions necessary for deep, mutually fulfilling connections with ourselves, our partners, families, and frie
Why is self-care important?

Why is self-care important?

We need to prioritize time for self-care. Relationship expert Dr. John Gottman tells us, “By engaging in proactive self-care, we can create the conditions necessary for deep, mutually fulfilling connections with ourselves, our partners, families, and frie...

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This year has thrown many new challenges to parents. Maintaining a routine and helping your family stay stable during this time of chaos can be hard. We’ve gone from knowing when school, ballet and soccer are scheduled to needing to find activities for y
The Importance of Traditions in 2020

The Importance of Traditions in 2020

This year has thrown many new challenges to parents. Maintaining a routine and helping your family stay stable during this time of chaos can be hard. We’ve gone from knowing when school, ballet and soccer are scheduled to needing to find activities for y

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Healthy relationships require some compromise and negotiation from both partners. While it is often easy to see changes that we think others should make, we can’t force people to change.
How to Inspire Changes In Others

How to Inspire Changes In Others

Healthy relationships require some compromise and negotiation from both partners. While it is often easy to see changes that we think others should make, we can’t force people to change.

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One of the greatest essentials of any healthy relationship is good communication. It allows you to express thoughts, feelings and needs to produce a common understanding between persons.
How To Improve My Relationship Through Communication

How To Improve My Relationship Through Communication

One of the greatest essentials of any healthy relationship is good communication. It allows you to express thoughts, feelings and needs to produce a common understanding between persons.

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For most of us, communication strategies are something we only think about when facing a conflict (e.g. marital issues, asking for a raise, addressing teens breaking house rules, etc.). However, communication is not just for conflict resolution – it affec
How can we communicate in a fun and effective way?

How can we communicate in a fun and effective way?

For most of us, communication strategies are something we only think about when facing a conflict (e.g. marital issues, asking for a raise, addressing teens breaking house rules, etc.). However, communication is not just for conflict resolution – it affec...

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Many couples look forward to the day when their children leave home and they can return to being a couple again. A 2017 study found that once couples become parents, those in the United States spend an average of three hours and 52 minutes a day parenting
How to Keep Marriage Vibrant During Empty Nesting

How to Keep Marriage Vibrant During Empty Nesting

Many couples look forward to the day when their children leave home and they can return to being a couple again. A 2017 study found that once couples become parents, those in the United States spend an average of three hours and 52 minutes a day parenting...

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Difficult conversations about things like money, relationships, or other emotionally-charged topics can be hard to navigate. These situations can come up in our relationships with friends, with family members, and with co-workers.
How to Have Difficult Conversations

How to Have Difficult Conversations

Difficult conversations about things like money, relationships, or other emotionally-charged topics can be hard to navigate. These situations can come up in our relationships with friends, with family members, and with co-workers.

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This is a great question to ask. Before jumping into the response for this question, take note that author Gary Chapman’s book, the 5 Love Languages, according to recent research, has been understudied.
What are the love languages of individuals?

What are the love languages of individuals?

This is a great question to ask. Before jumping into the response for this question, take note that author Gary Chapman’s book, the 5 Love Languages, according to recent research, has been understudied.

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According to relationship expert John Gottman "94% if the time, the way a discussion starts determines the way it will end." If conversations start harshly or with criticism- the conversation will end with at least as much tension as it began.
How to Have Difficult Conversations

How to Have Difficult Conversations

According to relationship expert John Gottman "94% if the time, the way a discussion starts determines the way it will end." If conversations start harshly or with criticism- the conversation will end with at least as much tension as it began.

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With COVID shutting down state and national parks, airline travel restricted, and the threat of quarantine hanging overhead, most of us have been staying at home. It may be hard to remember the last time your family took a road trip or headed out on a we
Can I safely take my family on vacation during the COVID crisis?

Can I safely take my family on vacation during the COVID crisis?

With COVID shutting down state and national parks, airline travel restricted, and the threat of quarantine hanging overhead, most of us have been staying at home. It may be hard to remember the last time your family took a road trip or headed out on a we

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Money affects every facet of our lives, particularly our relationship with our partner. Marriage.com lists financial stress as the No. 2 reasons for divorce among couples. In order to prevent financial stress from damaging your relationship, it is importa
Can you share ideas on how we, as a couple, can work together on our finances without ending up in an argument?

Can you share ideas on how we, as a couple, can work together on our finances without ending up in an argument?

Money affects every facet of our lives, particularly our relationship with our partner. Marriage.com lists financial stress as the No. 2 reasons for divorce among couples. In order to prevent financial stress from damaging your relationship, it is importa...

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Effective communication can be difficult — pile on stressful events and it can feel impossible to keep your cool when things heat up. When we get stressed and our hearts start racing, the thinking part of our brain shuts down a bit and our emotional brain
How to Communicate During Stressful Times

How to Communicate During Stressful Times

Effective communication can be difficult — pile on stressful events and it can feel impossible to keep your cool when things heat up. When we get stressed and our hearts start racing, the thinking part of our brain shuts down a bit and our emotional brain...

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Most people struggling with pornography addictions later in life were first exposed when they were 10-13 years of age, and the addictions set quickly. Sadly, 12-17-year-old teens are the largest group of internet pornography viewers in America (Safefamili
Will my teenager look at pornography on his/her smartphone?

Will my teenager look at pornography on his/her smartphone?

Most people struggling with pornography addictions later in life were first exposed when they were 10-13 years of age, and the addictions set quickly. Sadly, 12-17-year-old teens are the largest group of internet pornography viewers in America (Safefamili...

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COVID-19 has changed the way we view the world. We went from a normalized schedule with time spent in various categories to working from home, having school from home, and spending an abundant amount of time with our families. With all that is going on, i
How can 4-H help your family?

How can 4-H help your family?

COVID-19 has changed the way we view the world. We went from a normalized schedule with time spent in various categories to working from home, having school from home, and spending an abundant amount of time with our families. With all that is going on, i...

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First of all, it’s important that you recognize the need to keep communicating about the little things. So good work on clearly identifying an area for improvement in your relationship. From the way you worded this question, it seems as though you are wan
As we get older, it seems there is less to talk about. How do you keep communication fresh?

As we get older, it seems there is less to talk about. How do you keep communication fresh?

First of all, it’s important that you recognize the need to keep communicating about the little things. So good work on clearly identifying an area for improvement in your relationship. From the way you worded this question, it seems as though you are wan...

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Dads play a major role in the development of their children from birth through adulthood. According to one report, “Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure, be confident to explore their surroundings,
How big of a role do I, as their dad, play in my children’s lives?

How big of a role do I, as their dad, play in my children’s lives?

Dads play a major role in the development of their children from birth through adulthood. According to one report, “Even from birth, children who have an involved father are more likely to be emotionally secure, be confident to explore their surroundings,...

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The COVID-19 restrictions have wreaked havoc on the daily routines of families and students. These disruptions to activities and schedules can cause a great deal of stress. This means we need extra patience with family and with ourselves as we manage the
How can I manage the COVID-19 changes to my family and work schedules?

How can I manage the COVID-19 changes to my family and work schedules?

The COVID-19 restrictions have wreaked havoc on the daily routines of families and students. These disruptions to activities and schedules can cause a great deal of stress. This means we need extra patience with family and with ourselves as we manage the

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Graduations are a time of transition and change, and might even be considered a societal rite of passage. So where does that leave us in the era of social distancing? What do we do when we aren’t allowed to hold graduation parties and ceremonies are bein
How can I acknowledge achievements when graduation ceremonies are cancelled?

How can I acknowledge achievements when graduation ceremonies are cancelled?

Graduations are a time of transition and change, and might even be considered a societal rite of passage. So where does that leave us in the era of social distancing? What do we do when we aren’t allowed to hold graduation parties and ceremonies are bein

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Before children arrive, there is more money, time, and energy for courtship. Throughout the juggling act of parenting some find intimate connections frequency diminished. For my spouse and I parenting, lack of sleep, medical debt, feeding difficulties, sl
How to make date night happen with small children?

How to make date night happen with small children?

Before children arrive, there is more money, time, and energy for courtship. Throughout the juggling act of parenting some find intimate connections frequency diminished. For my spouse and I parenting, lack of sleep, medical debt, feeding difficulties, sl...

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If you currently have or previously had a loved one with a mental illness who has refused help, you are not alone. Many others have and continue to ask this question. There can be many different reasons why someone may not want to seek counseling or med
How do you help a loved one with mental illness that doesn’t want to seek counseling or medication?

How do you help a loved one with mental illness that doesn’t want to seek counseling or medication?

If you currently have or previously had a loved one with a mental illness who has refused help, you are not alone. Many others have and continue to ask this question. There can be many different reasons why someone may not want to seek counseling or med

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One in three people live in blended families. Though I am not a fan of labeling blended families, the term can highlight the unique challenge of finding tolerable ways to blend the lives, experiences, expectations, and dreams of all involved.
Why is blending so difficult for blended families?

Why is blending so difficult for blended families?

One in three people live in blended families. Though I am not a fan of labeling blended families, the term can highlight the unique challenge of finding tolerable ways to blend the lives, experiences, expectations, and dreams of all involved.

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As human beings, we need relationships in our lives. We have a need to be connected to others, whether it be with family, friends, or a romantic partner.
How to Build and Strengthen Relationships

How to Build and Strengthen Relationships

As human beings, we need relationships in our lives. We have a need to be connected to others, whether it be with family, friends, or a romantic partner.