“What’s Hijacking So Many Beautiful Relationships? - Jacob Hess

In this webinar Jacob will discuss the influence of mainstream narratives of romance and how couples can combat negative messaging about love and relationships.  



Time Markers

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Jacob Hess?  

4:05 – Focus question for the day 

6:26 – Don’t accept the simplistic  

8:03 – What’s happening? How do we explain it?  

10:17 – A Heavy Burden  

12:00 – Marriage by fascination  

12:44 – Pursuing the “perfect blend of selves”  

14:30 – Our modern society in marriage  

16:17 – Beautiful possibilities crushed  

17:48 – Husband on Porn, Wife on Prozac  

18:40 – Holding it all in awareness  

22:00 – M. Scott Peck  

23:24 – What is our deepest commitment? 

24:26 – Think of love as a practice  

27:07 – Recovering Couples Anonymous  

32:47 – Be patient with attachment injury  

36:13 – Watch this in a hard moment  

37:28 – The Painted Veil  

41:06 – To go deeper  

42:18 – Q&A 

About Jacob Hess: 

Jacob teaches mindfulness-based stress reduction and has many books including, “You’re not as crazy as I Thought, But You’re Still Wrong”. He has helped create online mindfulness-based recovery programs for depression and anxiety, sexual compulsivity, and chemical dependency. Jacob’s life work is dedicated to making space for thoughtful good-hearted people to find understanding and affection while exploring together the deepest of disagreements. 

Webinar Guest Links: 

https://faithmatters.org/jacob-hess/  

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacobzhess  

Books 

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Insights: 

Jacob Hess: Rather than one big dramatic choice, this is a choice we must make repeatedly in our relationships.  

Invites:  

  1. Watch the music video Broken Together by Casting Crowns  
  2. On your next date night, watch The Painted Veil 
  3. Think of love as a practice, you are never going to get it right, it is something you will have to practice with your partner always. 

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