Securely Attached - Dr. Jeremy Boden
In this webinar you will discover your attachment style and how it can lead you to strengthen your relationships. Expert therapist and UVU family science professor, Dr. Jeremy Boden goes over the 3 most common attachment adaptations and how to understand each one.
Time Markers
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Dr. Jeremy Boden?
2:43 – Overview
3:45 – A study of secure, happily married women
6:37 – A theory of love and bonding
7:41 – Adult attachment theory
10:40 – Research on attachment and marriage
12:28 – We all have attachment needs/longings
15:23 – We all have an attachment system
17:10 – Strategies for managing our disconnection
18:58 – Our partner can be a secure base and safe haven
19:26 – We can become more securely attached through consistent, loving, safe, experiences
20:15 – Most people lean towards one of three adaptations
21:40 – Why is this important?
22:03 – Secure attachment adaptation
27:20 – Reacher attachment adaptation
33:00 – Protector attachment adaptation
37:29 – The window of tolerance
41:07 – Apply it all – where do you lean?
42:48 – What can you do to help your partner and relationship?
48:35 – Couple connections
50:13 – Questions
About Dr. Jeremy Boden
Jeremy is an associate professor of family science at Utah Valley University and licensed marriage and family therapist who specializes in couples and premarital counseling. He also teaches marriage and relationship courses in the community and has created an online premarital course for Christian and LDS couples. He is married to his wife Daria and together they have four children.
Jeremy Boden Links:
https://jeremyboden.wordpress.com/about/
https://www.uvu.edu/directory/employee/?id=UUdRUXZZY3ZTdlU1blJuRHBOYUp6dz09
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/jeremy-s-boden-provo-ut/146296
Insights
Jeremy hopes you were able to identify which attachment style best fits you and your partner. He hopes you will learn how to understand your partner better by this webinar. He believes these concepts can be extremely helpful if implemented into your relationship.
Invites:
- Share with your partner what you learned from the webinar and what really stuck
- Discuss how your partner has helped you feel safe, seen and soothed in the past
- Share with your partner how you tend to lean toward either more Reacher or Protector and in what circumstances
- Discuss a person in your life who you see exhibits a more securely attached adaptation
- Discuss ways you can be more understanding of and compassionate toward each other’s attachment adaptive strategies
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