Relationship Resilience After Betrayal Trauma - Geoff Steurer
In this Stronger Marriage webinar, Geoff Steurer, licensed marriage and family therapist, unpacks the complex journey of betrayal recovery for couples. Geoff explains the three distinct recovery paths—personal healing for the betrayed, the betrayer, and the relationship itself. With deep insights into betrayal trauma, rebuilding trust, and navigating relational healing, this session offers practical steps for couples seeking hope, clarity, and meaningful connection after betrayal.
Time Markers
00:00:20 — Welcome by Nyah Phelps, introduction of the webinar and guest Geoff Steurer
00:00:34 — Geoff’s background and expertise in betrayal trauma and couples recovery
00:01:53 — Geoff’s introduction: Why recovery after betrayal is a unique journey
00:02:28 — The three recoveries: Betrayer, betrayed partner, and the relationship
00:04:32 — Couples are at different recovery stages; how to assess where you are
00:05:20 — Geoff’s journey into betrayal recovery work and his passion for transformation
00:07:01 — Betrayal trauma vs. other traumas—why betrayal hits differently
00:10:09 — The deep emotional impacts of betrayal trauma on trust and self
00:13:04 — The danger of making quick decisions after betrayal—importance of slowing down
00:14:12 — Overview of the three recoveries and betrayal trauma framework
00:15:20 — Betrayed partner recovery: Reclaiming reality, safety, and setting boundaries
00:21:00 — Recognizing manipulation and rebuilding self-trust
00:21:50 — The betrayer’s recovery: Accountability, honesty, and community support
00:25:51 — The relationship’s recovery: Relational healing and earned trust over time
00:29:33 — The importance of slowing down and building trust with small, safe interactions
00:32:18 — Relational recovery as a joint journey—not isolated healing
00:35:01 — Final encouragement: Hope, healing, and the power of relational recovery
About Geoff Steurer:
Geoff Steurer is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, podcaster, and speaker with over 25 years of experience treating couples healing from the impact of sexual betrayal.
He is the creator of "Courageous Together", a revolutionary online couples betrayal trauma recovery program. He is the co-author of “Love You, Hate the Porn: Healing a Relationship Damaged by Virtual Infidelity”, Co-host of the podcast, “From Crisis to Connection”, with his wife, Jody, and has produced workbooks, audio programs, and courses healing couples and individuals from the impact of sexual betrayal, unwanted pornography use, partner betrayal trauma, and broken trust.
He earned degrees from Brigham Young University and Auburn University and has extensive training and experience treating sexually compulsive behaviors and betrayal trauma. He has also completed additional training in the APSATS Multidimensional Partner Trauma Model, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), and is master certified in Accelerated Resolution Trauma Therapy (ART). He and his wife of 28 years, Jody, live in St. George, UT and they are the parents of four children.
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