Managing Expectations: How to Effectively Communicate in Marriage - Vjollca Martinson

In this webinar, Dr. Martinson will share her expertise in helping couples manage expectations in relationships and marriages. She will discuss how unmet needs and expectations impact relationships and will identify reasons why couples have a difficult time communicating their expectations. Dr. Martinson will provide tips on helping couples learn to examine and express expectations to create satisfying relationships and marriages.



Time Markers

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Vjollca Martinson 

2:40 — Introduction to presentation  

3:31 — Why are expectations such a big deal? 

6:44 — How do we create expectations? 

8:36 — Important expectations to have in a relationship 

10:40 — Need for progress- different for everyone 

12:55 — Who does what and how to talk about it 

14:50 — How do we examine our own selves? 

17:16 — Unrealist and realist expectations example 

20:06 — How to manage expectations, understand, examine and express 

22:50 — Understanding yourself and the relationship 

24:29 — Needy vs I have certain needs 

26:05 — Understanding your spouse 

28:35 — Best way to be happy, create shared expectations 

31:11 — Have regular check-ins  

31:57 — Examples of unshared expectations 

33:09 — Good intention does not always equal shared understanding 

33:52 — Should I just do less? 

35:40 — Fun facts from research 

36:22 — Meet and fulfilled expectations 

40:25 — Things to be aware of 

42:17 — Some other myths  

44:15 — It takes work 

45:06 — Know what your want and what you need 

46:34 — Managing unmet expectations 

49:05 — Live Q&A   

About Webinar guest: 

Vjollca Martinson is a successful marriage and family therapist, author, presenter, instructor, and relationship expert with over two decades of successful experience counseling individuals, couples and families to re-create and maintain enjoyable relationships. She received her M.S. and Ph.D. degrees from Brigham Young University and has since found her passion in helping her clients build loving, trusting, and understanding relationships that enable emotional healing. Vjollca enjoys providing a new perspective for her clients, empowering them to embrace their journey, and loves to see her clients smile again. Vjollca has enjoyed mentoring new therapists through teaching, supervision and sharing her knowledge in publications and conference presentations.  

Webinar Guest Links: 

https://www.utahtherapy.com/couples-therapist-dr-vjollca-martinson-phd/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/vjollca-martinson-ph-d-lmft-2048ba5 

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