The Art and Science of Turning Conflict into Closeness - Emil Harker



Time Markers

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Emil Harker 

08:28- My Mission 

08:45- The Hole; Defining and Accepting Reality 

11:25- The Moment Reason Diminishes 

12:38- Overview: Limbic System, Defensive Cycle, Inevitability of Conflict, Lack of Training 

12:54- The Limbic System 

19:07- The Defensive Cycle 

23:35- The Defensive Cycle: Humility & Accountability Are the Rocket Fuel of Intimacy 

25:27- Embrace Conflict 

26:08- Inevitably of Conflict 

28:22- The Solution: 4 Steps of Complaining & Fencing Conflict 

29:00- The 4 Steps of Complaining 

41:20 Roleplaying Conflict 

48:50- Fencing Conflict 

49:04- The 4 Statements of Conflict 

54:30 Live Q & A 

About Emil Harker: 

Emil is an expert in conflict. For over 20 years, his passion is about getting through the fluffy stuff to the real nuts and bolts that help people deal with inevitable conflict. His book “You Can Turn Conflict Into Closeness” has been well received by professional therapists and couples alike and was endorsed by Dr. John Gottman as a "must read.” He is a frequent presenter to professional organizations and expert guest on several podcasts, radio and tv programs including Channel 2, 4, and 5 and was even on the Ricki Lake Show with former NBA Allstar Antoine Walker talking about how professional athletes go broke. He has his own podcast called The Emil Show. His new book Confidence In Conflict is used in fortune 500 companies helping them turn breakdowns into breakthroughs in business. When Emil is home, you will find him in the kitchen baking bread or eating it! 

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