Bridging the Libido Divide - Natasha Helfer
In this webinar Natasha will be discussing the wide range of libido differences that couples will experience. She will go into understanding, managing, and discussing these differences within your relationship. There are many things that can affect libido, along with that, many things to help those relationship issues.
Time Markers
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Natasha Helfer?
2:06 – Natasha gives some information and agreements
3:55 – You are not broken, we all come in different shapes and sizes, etc.
7:45 – Desire is different than arousal
9:28 – There are many things that can affect libido
13:06 – Consider libido issues a relational issue
17:54 – Getting rid of meaning ruts
20:50 – The Yins and Yangs of desire
21:06 – Spontaneous versus responsive
22:25 – Responsive desire
24:37 – Physical relaxation is important
26:02 – Physical stimulation is important
27:51 – Your brain is your biggest sex organ
29:28 – Mental relaxation is important
30:00 – Mental stimulation is important
33:36 – Where do you go from here?
40:56 – Q&A
About Natasha Helfer
Natasha is a certified Sex Therapist with 20 years of experience treating individuals, couples, and families. Others have reported Natasha as “approachable and a safe space often injected with humor”. She has developed a specific interest in helping clients worth through issues regarding interpersonal relationships, sexual development and faith or spiritual journeys. Natasha particularly enjoys helping those who want to navigate their religious cultures in healthy ways. She honors all religious paradigms and choices.
Natasha Helfer Links:
https://www.natashahelfer.com/blog
https://www.youtube.com/c/NatashaHelferParker
Insights
Natasha emphasizes that you are not broken! We all come in different shapes and sizes and have different wants and needs. It is important to remember this when exploring our relationships and working on getting on the same page.
Invites:
- Talk with your partner about the way sex works good for the both of you, it doesn’t have to always be desireless.
- Discuss if scheduling sex works in your relationship, if so, schedule a time that creates excitement and something to look forward to within your relationship.
- Look at a potential list of issues together and discuss what factors you think may be contributing to your problems and then come up with a plan.
- A visit to a urologist, urogynecologist, endocrinologist, or other physician possibly.
- Maybe you give a marriage or sex therapist a try.
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