006: Am I in an Abusive Relationship

Podcast Guest: Jill Anderson

Am I in an Abusive Relationship

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In this Episode

October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. In this week’s episode, Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz are joined by Jill Anderson, CEO of CAPSA (Citizens Against Physical & Sexual Assault) who discusses how to recognize signs of abuse and shares resources available to those experiencing domestic violence. We encourage those who recognize unhealthy patterns of behavior to seek help from qualified professionals. To survivors we say, “We believe you and there is hope.”

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Jill Anderson?

3:00 – What is domestic violence?

3:33 – Using the power and control wheel to recognize types of abuse.

4:45 – What is gaslighting?

8:35 – Tips for early relationships: Communication, boundaries, and power structure.

11:20 – What resources are available to those experiencing DV?

15:56 – Domestic violence survivor success stories. 

21:00 – How common is domestic violence?

24:01 – Lethality assessment: How law enforcement and other community programs are improving their response to DV. 

25:38 – What can witnesses do to help those experiencing domestic violence?

26:50 – No bruises? Recognizing relationship violence that is not physical. 

28:48 – When should I reach out for help if I am experiencing, or witnessing, domestic violence?

About Jill Anderson:

Jill Anderson is the CEO of CAPSA, a nonprofit organization providing services to and empowering individuals and families impacted by domestic violence and sexual assault. Jill has enhanced programs and expanded the capacity of CAPSA to provide critical 24-hour services, shelter, therapy, and housing for survivors. In 2013, she was named Resident of the Year by the Herald Journal, and in 2016, she received the Lifetime Achievement Award from Utah State University’s Center for Women and Gender.

Links and resources:



Power and Control Wheel: https://extension.usu.edu/strongermarriage/podcast/recognizing-signs-of-abuse

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233

CAPSA’s 24-hour Support Phone Line: 435-753-2500

Insights and Invites


Liz and Dave:

Educate yourself on the resources available to those experiencing Domestic Violence and if you are a survivor reach out and utilize those resources. 

To witnesses: See something, say something. Start believing, do not shame or place blame. Always start by believing the person and help them find the resources they need to have success. 


To survivors: We believe you! Reach out for help, we are here for you. 

To others: Start by believing. Healing for survivors starts when someone chooses to believe them. 


  1. Become more aware of intimate partner violence. Learn how to listen with love and then respond rather than react when someone shares that they are experiencing an unhealthy pattern in their relationship. 
  2. Never blame or shame a survivor of domestic violence. 
  3. View the Power and Control Wheel, listen to other Stronger Marriage Connection episodes that discuss abuse in relationships, and link to additional resources for recognizing, preventing, and healing from domestic violence by visiting our website.
  4. Learn about the resources available to DV survivors at https://www.capsa.org/.