174: Marriage 2.0: How To Rebuild A Marriage In Crisis
Podcast Guest: Naomi Light
March 30th, 2026
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In this Episode
In this episode of the Stronger Marriage Connection podcast, Naomi Light shares how couples can resolve conflict, rewire unhealthy patterns, and strengthen relationships using attachment theory, emotional awareness, and intentional behavioral change.
“The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.”
Time Markers
00:04 – Naomi’s marriage story
03:35 – From crisis to therapist
07:08 – Powerful first therapy insight
10:09 – You are not alone
13:01 – Chronic ambivalence explained
15:55 – Zeigarnik effect and conflict
18:40 – Attachment styles overview
22:49 – Anchor, wave, island analogy
23:37 – Becoming expert on partner
25:56 – Three shifts for change
29:02 – Overt vs covert contempt
32:49 – Conflict harms physical health
36:19 – Women and stress sensitivity
38:16 – Resources and where to find
38:58 – Co-pilot relationship analogy
40:42 – Final takeaway: not alone
Insights
Naomi's
You’re not alone—no matter how isolating relationship struggles feel, reach out, talk to someone you trust, and let others in.
Liz’s
Understanding attachment styles (anchor, wave, island) and making perspective, physiological, and behavioral shifts can transform how we show up in relationships.
Dave's
Change starts with a new perspective—stepping back, seeing the bigger picture, and approaching your partner with humility and shared responsibility strengthens connection.
Naomi's Resources
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Dr. Liz Hale: