117: Expert Tips From a Divorce Lawyer

Podcast Guest: Padideh Jafari

January 27th, 2025

115: Padideh

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In this Episode

In this enlightening episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, divorce attorney Padideh Jafari shares invaluable insights from her 22 years of experience. She delves into the common challenges marriages face, including financial stress, in-law interference, toxic positivity, and the seven-year itch. Padideh also provides practical tips for better communication, creating healthy boundaries, and the importance of self-awareness in marriage. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to strengthen their relationship or navigate marital challenges with wisdom and grace.

The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.”

Time Markers

00:04 - Meet Padideh Jafari
Introduction to her expertise and career in family law.

02:40 - Post-Holiday Financial Stress
How finances contribute to marital strain.

03:14 - Couples’ Last Vacations
Can a trip save your marriage?

06:49 - In-Law Interference
Setting boundaries for healthier relationships.

09:35 - Sharing Marital Issues with Family
Why keeping issues private matters.

13:23 - Conflict Avoidance Problems
The danger of "keeping the peace."

16:33 - The Seven-Year Itch
Why certain milestones challenge marriages.

19:56 - Illness and Marital Stress
Early signs a relationship is struggling.

24:21 - Self-Awareness in Divorce
Learning from past relationships through therapy.

26:20 - Understanding Narcissistic Traits
The rise of narcissism diagnoses and misconceptions.

30:07 - Mediation for Couples
How collaborative law fosters reconciliation.

36:54 - Key to Stronger Marriages
Effective communication and teamwork in marriage.

38:53 - Final Takeaway
Do everything possible before filing for divorce.


Insights

Padideh's 

I would say that before you decide to file for a divorce, do everything humanly possible in order to see if you can make the marriage work. Obviously, if there are you know, domestic violence, that's something that you know cannot easily be worked out. But if there's communication problems, if there's resentments, if there are, you know, different expectations. Now, because remember, people grow right every year, somebody is growing and you want to be growing together and not growing apart. And so, I think it's important.

Liz’s 

Let's turn over every stone. Let's make sure that we have looked at this left, right, upside down, backwards, inside out, to know that we've had a doubt there is no other way than divorce. I don't want people to leave or five years down the road say, gosh, looking back. What if? What if I found a better therapist? What if I tried harder? I want us to turn over every, every stumbling stone.

About Padideh:

Mrs. Padideh Jafari is the founder and CEO of Jafari Law & Mediation Office, APC with offices in Los Angeles and Orange County. She earned her Bachelor of Arts in Communication Studies with a minor in Psychology from Loyola Marymount University, and later received her law degree from Southwestern University School of Law. 

During law school, Mrs. Jafari was the Judicial Extern in the Los Angeles Superior Court for the Honorable Michael D. Rutberg.  She also clerked for the Los Angeles District Attorney’s office, special unit, handling child rape and molestation cases. Mrs. Jafari has also held various Adjunct Professor roles at NYU and Southern California Institute of Law teaching courses on Community Property, Family Law and Real Estate Law. 

Mrs. Jafari was admitted to the California Bar and the United States District Court for the Central District of California in 2003 and for the past 22 years, she has represented clients with complex Family Law issues, including business valuation, cash-flow analysis, high-asset property division totaling in the hundreds of millions and high stakes custody litigation. Renowned in both the Los Angeles and Orange County legal communities, she is recognized as a highly skilled and respected Family Law litigator. 

In addition to dealing with these types of high-conflict cases while representing clients in Family Law, Mrs. Jafari co-hosts a weekly Podcast called, The Narcissist Abuse Recovery Channel (NARC) to help the community understand the pitfalls of divorcing a Narcissist and regularly has guest appearances and interviews on television, YouTube, podcasts and other media outlets.


Padideh's Resources:

https://www.jafarilegal.com/

Social Media: Instagram, TikTok, Threads (@JafariLegal)

Podcast: Narcissist Abuse Recovery Channel (Available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts)


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