073: Tips for Remarriage and Stepfamilies 

Podcast Guest: Jeff and Tammy Hill
072: Tips for Remarriage and Stepfamilies

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In this Episode

Jeff and Tammy join Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to discuss helpful tips for blended or “stewed” families. 


0:00 – Introduction: Who are Jeff and Tammy Hill? 
2:40 – How Tammy and Jeff met 
6:14 – Basics to getting remarried 
11:39 – Believe in success 
14:38 – Shared decisions 
17:19 – Keeping love alive 
22:22 – Loyalty of children to their parents 
24:52 – Stewed Families 
27:24 – Stay out of triangles 
32:28 – Trajectories 
34:13 – Jeff and Tammy’s Resources  
37:20 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection? 
39:16 – Takeaways   


Insights and Invites


“I think the fundamental principle is to honor the previous family, honor the original family honor to recognize that nobody wished that that didn't work out with that original family.”-Jeff Hill

“If you really are grounded and know who you are, and are living aligned with who you want to be, you're gonna be a great marriage partner.” -Tammy Hill

“Having a step family isn't something that happens overnight. It doesn't even happen within a year or two. A lot of the research says it takes between four and seven years until a step family, big blended family or our small blended family but anyway that this type of a family actually gets cohesive.” - Tammy Hill


  • Chat with your partner about ways that you have moments to slip away from your family or home to just focus on your relationship.

  • Listen to Tammy’s podcast “Live your Why” on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.  

About Jeff and Tammy Hill:

Jeff and Tammy Hill have been enjoying the ups and downs of remarriage and stepfamily living for 17 years. Together, they have 12 children and both recently retired from teaching at Brigham Young University. They both continue to stay busy. Jeff helps with money workshops, and Tammy is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and conducts love retreats, honeymoon workshops and dating boot camps. Most importantly, the hills love being parents, step parents and grandparents. 

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