055: How to Change Your Marriage Mindset

Podcast Guest: Ted Lowe
054: Finding Financial Harmony in Marriage

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In this Episode

Ted Lowe joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to discuss how to change your marriage mindset in order to change your relationship. Ted believes that you can change your
marriage by first changing your thoughts.

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Ted Lowe?
2:07 – What are couples with great marriages doing?
4:47 – The importance of a growth mindset
8:20 –“Fred in my head”
15:47 – What is your narrative about your spouse?
20:45 – Valuing your partner’s emotion
24:11 – Empathy leads to logic
28:50 – The power of a pause
34:26 – What is the purpose of marriage?
37:25 – What is the key to a stronger marriage connection?
38:00 – Ted’s Resources
38:59 – Takeaways

Insights and Invites


“Don’t let anybody celebrate your spouse more than you.” - Ted Lowe
"If we think something, then we're going to look for ways to confirm it." -Dr. Dave Schramm
“What I think about myself radically determines how my spouse experiences me at any given moment.” -Dr. Liz Hale


  • Learn more about a growth mindset and have a 10 minute discussion with your partner about how it could help you in your marriage.
  • Think of one hobby that your partner gets excited about and then come up with something you could do to get excited with them.

About Ted Lowe:

Ted Lowe Ted Lowe is on staff with Family First, where he serves as a speaker, writer, resource creator, and podcast host. He is also the founder of For Us Marriage.com. He is the author of several incredible books, including his most recent release, Us in Mind: How Changing Your Thoughts Can Change Your Marriage. Ted lives with his wife, Nancie, and their 4 children in Cumming, GA.

Ted Lowe Links:

Facebook: For Us Marriage
Instagram: @forusmarriage
Book: https://a.co/d/iMqdiZj

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