016: Saving your Marriage Before it Starts

Podcast Guest: Dr. Les Parrott

Saving Your Marriage Before it Starts

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What are the most important things couples need to know before they get married? Dave and Liz discuss with Dr. Les Parrott advice for newlyweds, engaged couples or married people based off of years of research and working with couples.

0:00 – Introduction: Who is Les Parrott?

1:00 – Les Parrot’s book: “Saving your Marriage Before it Starts.”

5:40 – SYMBIS assessment

6:40 – Lowering the divorce rate

8:32 – PREPARE/ENRICH assessment

11:29 – The unspoken “rules” in marriage

14:20 – The Relationship Laboratory

15:08 – Should my spouse make me whole?

18:00 – Developing the habit of happiness

19:30 – How do I adjust to things beyond my control?

27:05 – How do gender differences affect relationships?

32:08 – Mastering conflict and fighting fair

36:30 – CORE: cooperation, ownership, respecting and empathy

38:17 – Honeymoon habits

40:47 – Les Parrot’s resources

44:10 – Empathy as the single most important relationship skills

About Les Parrott

Dr Les Parrott is a clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at Northwest University. He and his wife, Leslie – a marriage and family therapist – are founders of the Center for Healthy Relationships on the campus of Olivet University.


Married in 1984, the Parrott’s speak together in a wide array of venues, from churches to Fortune 500 company board rooms. The Governor of Oklahoma even appointed the Parrott’s as the first ever statewide Marriage Ambassadors.


The Parrott’s have been featured in USA Today and the New York Times. Their television appearances include CNN, The View, The O’Reilly Factor, The Today Show and Oprah.





Parrott’s book

Insights and Invites


The power of marriage is shown through the dual cooperation, ownership, respect and empathy for the marriage. Each partner must put in the work to grow with the other and develop themselves along the way. Doing this can be difficult, therefore, it is imperative to seek out help from researched and valued resources available.


  • Submit a list of six questions that you would like to answer on Loveology.com.
  • Read the Parrott’s book and develop three things you can your partner can do to help your marriage continue to thrive.
  • Write down one thing about conflict with your partner that you want to improve because you feel it is unfair for your partner. Make a plan of how to master it and implement it in your next conflict.

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