From Surviving to Thriving in Your Sexual Relationship - Kristin Hodson
In this webinar, Kristin Hodson teaches how to keep your sexual relationship with your partner alive and flourishing throughout the phases, cycles, and challenges of life! Join us today to learn how you can maintain the flame of your sexual relationship.
Time Markers
0:00 – Introduction: Who is Kristin Hodson?
2:40 – Kristin’s family story.
5:32 – Changes that disrupt people’s sex lives.
9:49 – Three types of change that affect relationships.
11:02 – Emotional resilience in stressful situations.
12:41 – Sexual resilience in a partnership.
14:50 – Five tools of resilience
17:18 – Tool #1: Connection
18:46 – Rituals of connection: predictability, stability, purpose
22:00 – Tool #2: Rethink what sex is
25:40 – Expanding how sexual and non-sexual touch can building intimacy.
29:05 – Tool #3: Prioritize and schedule
30:30 – Does sex have to be spontaneous to be enjoyable?
34:15 – How to create a sex date.
38:10 – Tool #4: Learn to communicate about your sexual wants and needs
40:19 – Practicing safe sex conversations: Where, why, how?
43:18 – Tool #5: Cultivate a growth mindset
44:23 – A fixed vs. a growth mindset
48:19 – Maintaining sexual intimacy during menopause and andropause
49:25 – Vaginismus: How do I engage sexually?
50:35 – How do I make safe more fun?
52:35 – Managing a partner’s porn addiction.
53:50 – Handling sexual pain and a low libido after birth.
56:30 – Building sexual satisfaction and traction in your relationship
57:45 – Shaping intimacy and mutual pleasure after sexual trauma.
59:02 – What happens during a pelvic floor exam?
1:00:00 – Opening up conversations about sex when my partner is not receptive.
About Kristin Hodson:
Kristin is a licensed clinical social worker and a Certified Sex Therapist, determined to make it easier for all of us to talk about sex, no matter where we started from, and empower people to develop their sexual identity, hone sexual values, and improve communication. Kristin is the founder and CEO of The Healing Group, a mental health specialty clinic focusing maternal mental health, sexual health and couples.
Kristin Hodson Links:
https://www.thehealinggroup.com/management-team/2018/4/20/kristin-hodson-lcsw-cst
Insights:
Our brain is our biggest sexual organ, stimulate it by developing your sexual tool box. Start by formulating a connection with your partner. Then, rethink what sex is to you. Does sexual satisfaction always have to end in an orgasm or mind-blowing new experiences? How often do you want to have sex? Are you willing to allow change in yourself and your partner’s sexual needs and want? Now, schedule a sexual date with your partner. Finding ways to prioritize and schedule sex with your partner builds attraction and consistency with your relationship. Next, communicate! Yes, it may be awkward at first but communicating your wants and needs with your partner will build intimacy and safety so that you both can experience pleasure. Lastly, have a growth mindset. Develop a standard of change and growth in your relationship. Allow for your own change and the change of your partner.
Invites:
- Brainstorm 3-5 ideas you could do to add a ritual of connection with your partner.
- What is your current idea of what counts as sex and how can you use the metaphor of keeping a log on the fire to expand your idea of sex and sexual connection? Is that idea still working for your relationship?
- Write down the days and times that would work best in our life for a sex date?
- Just Do It: Have a safe sex conversation with your partner. Set a timer for 30 minutes, start with a connection, end with an appreciation, seal it with a kiss and create a new pattern to talk about your sex life.
- Have a sexual conversation with your partner by starting low and slow. Choose something light that you can discuss at first to begin with, not your deepest sexual hurt.
- Find your growth mindset mantra for the week.
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