192: Start With RELATE To Build A Stronger Marriage Connection

Podcast Guest: Sonnet Hintze

August 31st, 2026

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In this Episode

In this episode of Stronger Marriage Connection, licensed marriage and family therapist Sonnet Hintze joins Dave Schramm and Liz Hale to discuss why strong marriages benefit from preparation and intentional investment before problems arise. Sonnet shares how premarital education, the RELATE relationship assessment, the Five Love Languages, and practical relationship tools can help couples better understand one another, strengthen communication, and build lasting connection. From learning your partner’s preferred ways of receiving love to responding to small bids for connection, this conversation shows how simple, intentional actions can make a meaningful difference in marriage.

“The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.”

Chapters

00:00 – Building Strong Relationships Early
01:35 – Starting With RELATE
03:24 – Why Premarital Education Matters
05:30 – Choosing Love Every Day
07:02 – Sonnet’s Passion for Prevention
09:54 – Preparing Couples for Marriage
10:57 – Understanding Your Love Languages
13:27 – When Love Changes Over Time
16:50 – Love Languages Can Change
18:05 – Intentional Touch and Quality Time
19:10 – Origins of Five Love Languages
20:56 – The Five Love Languages
22:01 – Why Love Languages Work
24:08 – Loving With an Outward Mindset
28:02 – Love Languages Date Night
31:11 – Discovering What Your Partner Needs
32:12 – Preparing Beyond the Wedding
35:11 – Recognizing Bids for Connection
37:39 – Finding Marriage Education Resources
39:30 – Investing in Premarital Education
43:47 – Small Things Strengthen Marriage
45:42 – Takeaway of the Day

Insights

Sonnet Hintze: Build awareness and take small, intentional steps to strengthen your relationship, even when things are already going well. Tools like RELATE and the Five Love Languages can help couples better understand each other, while engaged couples should make time to prepare for their marriage—not just their wedding. .
Liz Hale: Prepare for marriage with a willingness to learn and be coached. Couples don’t automatically know how to build a healthy marriage, and family members can also support engaged couples by encouraging or even gifting premarital education.
Dave Schramm: Strong relationships require intentional investment. With more relationship tools and resources available than ever, couples—and the people who care about them—should actively seek out education and support that can help them build strong marriages.

About Sonnet Hintze:

Sonnet Hintze is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and the founder of Building Healthy Foundations for Couples. With a passion for proactive relationship support, Sonnet offers premarital education groups, engaging date nights, and online classes designed to help couples create strong, lasting partnerships. Her approach blends evidence-based guidance with fun, accessible experiences that build trust, communication, and connection—before challenges arise.