Ask a Question
Notify Me On Question Update
Email this Question
How can I spend more quality time with my child?
Rate This FAQ
Many things vie for parents’ time — work, home and yard upkeep, volunteer work, exercise and other responsibilities. Don't leave your children the last to fit in when everyone else is done with you. Consider this:
You’ve come home from a long, tiring day at work and are greeted enthusiastically by your child. You bend over, give your child a hug and say “I love you.” You then start toward the next thing in your busy day. But your child follows you and says, “I don’t want you to love me. I want you to play with me.”
There are differences in the ways people express love. Some people are task-centered and do things for others to express love. Others are verbal and tell others of their love. Both are important, but in general, children spell love T-I-M-E. A young girl might say she knows her dad loves her because he took her to the park and pushed her in the swing. Or a young boy might say he knows his mother loves him because she took him on a picnic. To children, the currency of love is time.
Much attention has been given to the idea of quality time. Quality time is important, but it doesn’t always happen on schedule. A certain amount of “hanging around together” time has to take place before quality comes into play.
Consider these ideas to put more time with your child into your schedule.
· Make dinner a priority. Avoid planning things during dinner time. Dinner time provides a time to talk and to be in touch with each other.
· Limit TV watching. The hours can quickly disappear in front of the tube. Consider limiting yourself (not just the kids) to one or two hours a night.
· Volunteer to coach your child’s team or lead your child’s club. These types of commitments will ensure that you spend time together. · Choose exercise routines or other activities that include your child.
· Make time together a priority. Schedule it in your planner. When someone else wants your time, tell them you already have a commitment. Children should know they are a priority and shouldn’t be left to fit into whatever time is left over.
· If you have more than one child, spend individual time with each of them. Ask them to make a list of things they would like to do with you, noting how much the activities will cost and about how long each will take. Rank activities based on affordability, interest or feasibility, but choose something, schedule it and do it. The rewards to you and your child will be well worth the effort.
Submit Your Suggestion
Other Questions In This Topic
- Do you have tips for coping with tragedy?
- How can we help our teens drive safely?
- I have a 2 year old son who has a step grandfather. He has had the role of a grandfather to my son since the day he was born. Recently, my husband (and this is his stepfather his real father is deceased) and the step grandfather had a huge blow-up. We wanted to make up and talk immediately but we were shocked that he was "done with us".The step grandfather has decided to drop all of us including his beloved grandchild and missed the birth of his 2nd so called grandchild. The biological grandmother accepts his decision and has moved forward, but we are hurt most because our children have been abandoned by him.My question is, is it wrong to think that because he had a grandfather role and he assumed it that he should if at all try to resolve the issues with the stepson for the sake of the grandchildren? Is that too much to expect? How is he accountable? What are his responsibilities?
- Do you have tips for those in the sandwich generation?
- How should parents tell their children about divorce?
- Do You Have Tips For Dealing With Road Rage?
- How to help youth develop talents
- How much should I worry about the Avian flu?